Help
How can you help somebody who doesn't want to be helped? Even though you "know" they need it. Tricky to say the least. I'll give you a couple of examples.
1. Many years ago I advised my friend not to get married. "You will never be happy with this guy". Guess what? They married, and have gone through a nasty divorce. Then you advise "the best way to get over a man is not to get under another" (well, at least not immediately :)...and so on. What do you think happened?
2. Another friend has an asshole of a boyfriend (see previous blog item). She loves him. She spends at least 15 min every time we chat to talk about how fantastic he is. And I get a bit hazy here, because for her sake i really want her to be happy finally. I just feel in my heart that she will never be with this guy.
3. More general. Has to do with the men I meet. Ever heard the phrase "my wife doesn't understand me"? I gag and then puke. Can't even be bothered to listen any more.
Am I aggressive? Compassionate? Caring? Or just plain irritating? You tell me.
1. Many years ago I advised my friend not to get married. "You will never be happy with this guy". Guess what? They married, and have gone through a nasty divorce. Then you advise "the best way to get over a man is not to get under another" (well, at least not immediately :)...and so on. What do you think happened?
2. Another friend has an asshole of a boyfriend (see previous blog item). She loves him. She spends at least 15 min every time we chat to talk about how fantastic he is. And I get a bit hazy here, because for her sake i really want her to be happy finally. I just feel in my heart that she will never be with this guy.
3. More general. Has to do with the men I meet. Ever heard the phrase "my wife doesn't understand me"? I gag and then puke. Can't even be bothered to listen any more.
Am I aggressive? Compassionate? Caring? Or just plain irritating? You tell me.
posted by Annika @ 12:35 AM
2 Comments:
At 1:06 AM,
Anonymous said…
Relations are always relations. Sometimes you which you could be the other person looking from the outside. But when you are in it you can not.
I finally got out from the inside and looked back how destructive my relation was. I have now a hard job to get my life back on tack again. And Annika, I do understand you.
At 1:13 AM,
Annika said…
You're a survivor, you can do it!
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